Is "Crass" the New Black?
Definition of CRASS
2: guided by or indicative of base or materialistic values
It seems to me that being crass has become quite the rage, not just here in America, but worldwide.
Example: a facebook friend of mine, whom I have never met but befriended me because she saw some of my posts, was lamenting today over a comment she made that involved eating meat. She was upset because someone who SHE had never met-a friend of a friend-attacked her online, calling her a "corpse eater" and telling her she should "put her dogs on the grill". (this woman is an animal rescue person, and does a lot of posting trying to place dogs that she fosters).
Now I put forth to you, dear reader: here is a person who uses a social venue to roundly attack-ASSAULT- a person who has chosen not to be a vegetarian. Here is someone who is obviously very passionate about vegetarianism, and not eating animals. This person obviously dislikes the inhumane way that we go about processing animals to eat. You might even say this person CARES about the cows, pigs, chickens and other animals that humans consume. Doesn't want them to be hurt. However, this person had NO PROBLEM belting the snot out of someone verbally and HURTING them to "get their point across". Hmm.
I wonder if celery screams when it's cut from it's root system?
Example: not too long ago, I posted on my dear friends' social venue regarding some of my conservative ideology. I did this without crassness, or rudeness. I did not insult anyones' intelligence, and my comment was considered very mild. Katy-bar-the-door, out pops this young, idealistic avowed socialist who calls me names and states that I am "ignorant" and undereducated. He toots his horn loudly, and rudely, and takes obvious delight in grinding me into the ground. This is someone who stated that he was for "the little guy" and wants to see us all "share the wealth" and "help each other" - kind, loving goals, I might add. But he, too, had no problem crushing me under his heel to "make his point". Hmmm
I did ask him to send me some money, because I needed some money, and strangely enough I never did get that check in the mail, and I was polite about it!!
Seems that there is a lot of this going on these days. A great, angry desire to hurt anyone that doesn't agree with what you believe. To the point of violence sometimes.
On pondering this, it dawned on me that this insensitivity has been coming for a long time.There was a time a while back where I wondered where it got to be "funny" to "diss" and embarrass someone. I saw it very clearly with the rise of television shows like "Married with Children" - everyone thought that show was hilarious - I never got the humor. They were horrible to each other!
It hurts to be hurt.
Why is that delightful to some, that superior, smirking, insulting attitude of superiority?
Being a Redneck Gal, I had the company of some other Redneck Gals that decided that Redneck Gals had to be "tough" and "they weren't gonna take nothin' off no damn man!" My one RG Gal-pal used to tell me that I was too nice because I would go get my fella coffee or tea or beer if he asked me to. Most of my RG Gal-pals would say "git it your own damn self, I ain't your maid!" So those guys would slink off, get their own stuff, then the RG's would wonder why their relationships were going down the toilet. Hmmm.
My Mother is what I would categorize a "Classy Lady". She has poise, and emotional restraint. She treats people the way they want to be treated. She has ticked me off to high heaven, but she has NEVER insulted or "punched below the belt" when we have disagreed. Class.
I want to be a Classy Lady, not a Crassy Lady.
"Having such grossness of mind as to preclude delicacy and discrimination." hmmm.
It's crass to cuss in places where people aren't cussing. Example, Old People, restaurants, where children are. Bars are good places to cuss, and with your friends that cuss, too. I have to admit to cussing in bars, especially if I am with RG's and we are mad at someones' man because they left them for the girl that works at the All-You-Can-Eat Chicken Buffet. But it's crass to cuss at Luby's, sitting next to some elderly, polite folk.
It's not funny or justifiable or cute, charming, in good fun, just being a guy, a patriot,blahbiddyblahblah to insult or assault someone whose political views you don't agree with. It's crass. Even in a bar!
Fighting with your spouse in public is crass, too. Even in a bar.
It's base to not get each other things, and to shame your significant. Always. It's crass. It's kind to help each other and "git it your own damn self" implies to that person that they are not worth serving. So why should THEY serve YOU?
Boy, I can think of a million examples of the crassness that prevails everywhere these days.
My facebook friend did not deserve her treatment. The Socialist dude might have been able to persuade me to see some things his way, with a proper discourse. You can learn a lot from listening to someone without ripping off their heads and _________(I don't want to finish this, because it has cuss words in it and I am not at the bar, or my good friends, but YOU know).
I didn't really plan this blog topic. It just came up tonight as I was thinking about that facebook friend who was so upset this morning. Our current political situation adds to my thoughts on this topic - the way people are communicating their frustration today is VERY crass.
This week my goal is to be aware of the word and experiences tied to "crass" and catch myself if I exercise my crassness.
Care to join me? I will start by ending this blog and going to get my husband a beer. And maybe a Corpse sandwich.
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Now you knew there would be a Corpse sandwich recipe, right? Let's go with a simple Pig-Corpse sandwich recipe.
A Great Pig-Corpse Sandwich
1 lb. shaved DiLusso Double Smoked Ham
1 thinly sliced tomato
red onion slices
baby spinach leaves
4 Ciabatta rolls, sliced
Well, you KNOW how to make a sandwich, get after it!! And take one to your mate, too, with politeness, restraint and courtesy - don't forget some chips!
And for a REALLY wicked tasted, try Mendocino Sweet and Hot Mustard - this stuff is the absolute BOMB of mustards!! And they ship, too!!!
Namaste, Y'all!!!!
Thank you for reiterating the common niceties that should be practiced in each of our daily lives.
ReplyDeletePersonally, I can hardly tolerate how acceptable cussing has become and often ask "Do you actually eat with that mouth you use to talk such filth?"
Thanks again! And I'm off to see what my mother would like for lunch. ang.
absolutely loved this post. my 22nd birthday falls on the 23rd and it has taken me awhile to learn when and where most people feel it's appropriate to cuss, and how i don't have to use that language in every conversation i have..
ReplyDeleteexample-i went through a life changing event a few years ago and i was catching up with some "friends" outside the local starbucks. next to the table we were sitting at there was a lady and her daughter, daughter a few years older than me, mother was a few years older than my own mom. as i'm sharing my story with my "friends", the lady looks over at me and asks me very politely to please watch my language, that not everyone in the world wants to hear that type of language. awhile later, as my "friends" and i were leaving, i turned to the lady and her daughter, knelt down and apoligized and thanked her for correcting me. ever since that day, i'll find other words to express how i feel- because if those are the only words you know to use, you don't know too much, do you?
now no one is perfect, but we can all work together to change our world and the way we talk to one another and it needs to begin with adults so that they may teach their children how to speak with class. these children growing up in todays society will have no chance in the future unless we all work together to change the way we speak to eachother
If you can learn wisdom at such a young age, then you will go far, grasshopper
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